As a mental health practitioner I spend a lot of time preaching. Take your medicine, go to groups, and don’t miss your appointments. Funny thing is I’m pretty bad at all three. Masters degree or not we’re all pretty good and giving advice and pretty bad at taking our own. The long and short of it? Self care is hard.
A friend of mine recently brought to my attention the concept of Boring Self Care. Essentially the idea is giving ourselves a well deserved pat on the back for completing simple yet often neglected tasks. It might sound stupid but on a daily basis I watch people neglect their hygiene, disconnect from society, and be unable verbalize what they need to feel better. You might not have a chronic illness but I can assure you, you probably have shitty self care from time to time.
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The thing is it’s hard to remember what we could do to feel better when we’re in the midst of feeling crappy. Doesn’t matter if it’s a physical ailment, environmental stress, anxiety, mood issues, or just hormones- it makes a lot more sense to have a plan of what to do when things start to feel off before we get into downward spiral territory. It’s a lot like having a family disaster preparedness plan but for you and your brain.
So in honor of Mental Health Awareness month I decided to make some wallpapers to remind myself of what I need to do to take of myself. Consider them a digital post-it note on the mirror nudging oneself into better self care. Except this time Jack Berger isn’t breaking up with you. They’re free, please download and use at home as you see fit- if you want to share that’s great, just shoot me a line. Right click and download the image from the link to get the hi-res version.
I want to be better about taking care of myself. I’m painfully aware of how fragile mental health can be. In my line of work the burn out rate is well, not pretty- it’s important that we take care of each other and encourage each other to work towards our goals. I want to have more forgiveness for myself and more flexibility with pretty much everything. I want to slow down, allow small things to be victories, and go see a damned doctor.
So I’m taking tomorrow off of work to take care of myself. I’m going to go to some follow up appointments that are about 2-3 years over due and I’m doing my best to not feel super guilty and sheepish about that. Sometimes we can all use some healthy encouragement to take care of what we need to do. We may even need a social worker from time to time, even if we are one.
A Giveaway of Sorts
Do you need a nudge to take better care of yourself? Maybe it’s something you’ve been meaning to do or just something that you’re trying to cope with. In the spirit of self care and feeling connected I’d like to create a few wallpapers specifically for anyone that feels they may need it. I’ll plan on doing up to 5 and I’ll post them next week on blog. Just in time for the end of Mental Health Awareness Month.
All you need to do is:
- Leave a comment down below with whatever you feel like you need encouragement to accomplish. It can be a quote, to do list, mantra, or even an image. Anything under 15 words should be fine.
- In your comment let me know if you prefer a smartphone wallpaper, desktop wallpaper, or even something for your tablet. Let me know what dimensions are best and I’ll do my best to accommodate.
- I’m going to cut off “entries” on Saturday 5/27 12pm EST. On the off chance I get more than 5 comments (HA!) then I’ll use some kinda random thingymabobber to choose which ones I pick. Or maybe I’ll tackle as many as I can. We shall see.
Next week I’ll post the downloads and then I’m going to take a week off. Cause we’ll, self care.
UPDATE: Reader responses are in! Click through for 10 more self care wallpapers inspired by you.