The women in my life have always given me advice. Check your blind spot, don’t put out on the first date, and never put tomatoes in the refrigerator. We are practical people. Used to taking care of others and protecting ourselves from danger. Not to mention making sure our produce stays fresh as long as possible. As we get older we put these lessons to use and dole out advice to others. We become mothers constantly bathing children while neglecting our own bodies. Employees that tell others to take time for themselves while measuring ourselves against a higher standard. Mindless internet drones that spend time lusting over others’ possessions, bodies, and lifestyles while forgetting to relish our own gifts. Not today ladies.
In the words of our immortal lord and savior Donna Meagle-
Or at least for the love of god, take care of yourself.
You might be wondering why I’ve singled out women thus far. It’s not just because I think men are awful pieces of garbage. J/K, HI DANNY. It’s just that only women responded to my call for self care solicitations. Maybe the menfolk are just shy- or they’re better at asserting their needs to begin with, whatever it is… this ended up being a ladies only zone.
So let me take the time to say this to those that responded, read, and liked. I am so proud to be in the company of these women. Thanks the constant reminder that while we all have our own struggles, there’s more that binds us together than tears us apart. Whether it’s perfectionism, hygiene, child rearing, or chores- we all need reminders to take care of ourselves and ask for support. Finally, maybe you’re not feeling up to taking your own advice (#guilty), here’s an opportunity to take someone else’s. Literally. For some reason self care tends to be easier when it’s someone else’s advice rather than our own, maybe it gives us permission to feel that way or reminds us that we’re not alone. Either way, if any of these resonate with you give a shout out and feel free to download (the link under the image goes to the hi-res file).
Self Care Wallpapers 2017: Unabridged Edition
Brush my hair like they used to do in front of vanity mirrors, just cause it feels nice.
Write the story. Paint the picture. Ride the bike. Take the stairs. (Accidentally edited one out- oops!)
Take the train, look out the window or people watch rather than look at my phone.
Organize my closet, get rid of clothes
Get lost in someone else’s story. Instead of over analyzing/ exhausting myself with my own.
Visit a friend’s hometown or special place with them.
Set boundaries between you and your children, both physical and otherwise.
Don’t pick up your phone.
Rip out perfection from the roots.
Speak to yourself with the kind of kindness you would save for your kid, your student, your partner, or even a fucking stranger on the street, but that is oh so rarely bestowed upon yourself.
I always seem to take care of everyone else before myself.
Thanks again for participating and sharing a piece of yourself. I hope you enjoyed the wallpapers and are inspired to take better care of yourself. Even if it means just sitting a little taller because you’re a badass who isn’t afraid to admit that they’re not perfect. So proud to know you all. See you in two weeks. Be well and happy Mental Health Awareness Month.